My 2020 Goals and Where I’m Focusing My Time
Hello friends! I really don’t know what it is, but I am just SO excited about 2020 goals and the possibilities the year holds. I don’t remember ever being so excited for a year. Maybe it’s just that the number itself is really satisfying? (is that weird?) Or maybe there’s something great in my future and I can just feel it. I just don’t know what it is yet haha. Well, I actually have something really exciting happening in February (more on that next week!), so it could be that…even though I’m not trying to get my hopes up.
ANYWAY, the real reason I’m here today is because at the beginning if each year I make it point to write a post all about my goals and focus for the year. I usually choose one or two words and let that be what guides everything I do. So I wanted to share those 2020 goals with you today and break down a few other goals I have in my personal and professional life.
My Words for 2020
We’ll start with my words of the year first! This is where I try to keep my focus all year long. It’s what keeps me on track and gives me something to lean on if I get a little lost. I don’t make resolutions because I tried that once or twice, and well, I think we all know how that goes lol.
This is a big word for me this year. A couple of weeks ago, I talked a little bit about this on my stories and why it’s so huge for me this year. I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of the enneagram, (unless you’ve been around here for a little while, I’m sure you have) but if you haven’t I encourage you to look into it. I am a certified, hard 6 on that scale. And what that means in short, is that I’m incredibly anxious. Oh, but also loyal and I’ll be your best friend. Those things are both very accurate, but especially the part about being anxious.
A Little Behind-the-Scenes of my Anxiety
Anxiety has ruled in my life over the last year. I try to blame it on our short move to South Carolina, which definitely brought it to life like never before. But it’s always been there. I’ve always been the quiet one, the reserved one, the self-conscious one. The one people thought was weird or snobby because the social anxiety they couldn’t see was crippling. I’ve always worked myself to the bone, even after I quit my “real job” because I felt like if I wasn’t busy I wasn’t worth much. But that all skyrocketed in 2019.
First, I would lay awake at night thinking of nothing but worst case scenarios for the future. I became even more self conscious and critical of myself. I put all of these deadlines and pressures on my blog and growing a business because I needed to feel “worthy” of getting to work from home. And then I started having panic attacks. Like couldn’t go sit in a crowded restaurant or a movie theater (two of my favorite things) without my limbs going numb and feeling like I couldn’t swallow.
I’d finally had enough, overcame my pride, and went and talked to someone. Ultimately, I realized it was all in my head, and that I could control it with mindfulness. Now if you’ve ever dealt with anxiety like this, you know it’s not just that easy, but it was a start. Slowly but surely, after learning to catch my thoughts before they took over, I’ve been in a much better place and feel myself coming out of the fog.
All of that to say, that this year I refuse to let myself go back to that place. I’m being more mindful of my thoughts, choosing to be present and not think of all that could go wrong today, choosing to get out and be more social. But most importantly, I’m choosing to rest in God’s peace and trust that He’s got me.
This one definitely ties into mindfulness and conquering my social anxiety. I used to think that I would be totally fine if I spent every waking moment alone or with my husband and dogs, but after being confined to an apartment in a town where I knew literally no one, it became apparent that was not true.
Before I moved to Little Rock I was always apart of a church family. Those were always my people. But it was really hard to find the church that was right for us in such a big city. We finally found one shortly before we left last year, and have been able to get plugged in to an amazing Sunday school class now that we’re back for good. This group of people has been so life changing for Kevin and I both, and they probably have no idea how much I needed them.
Community is even more important when you’re a military spouse because this lifestyle can start to feel real lonely, real fast. So this year, it’s a huge goal of mine to foster community in my church family and also my military family. We weren’t put here to do life on our own, even if we are introverted homebodys. So I highly encourage you to make finding and growing your community a priority with me this year!
Other 2020 Goals in Life and Business
I have a few smaller (daily and weekly) goals that I really want to in 2020. The main one being to get into a daily, manageable routine that looks something like this:
- Wake up by or before 8 am
- Make the bed
- Workout for 30 minutes 5 days a week
- Eat something healthy
- Clean for 30 minutes
- Work from 10-5
- Make dinner
- In bed by 10:30
These are allllll things that I struggle with everyday (except the work part) so I’m really hoping to fix that this year. So far it’s not been great because Kevin has been on a weird work schedule where he comes and goes at all hours of the night, but now that that’s over, I think I can make this happen.
As far as my business goes, I really want to make this thing an actual, thriving business that I can be proud of. It’s starting to look a lot different than expected when I started blogging back at the end of 2017, but I’m really excited about where it’s going. This has something to do with what I’m announcing in February, so if you’re nosy like me and want to be the first to know what I keep alluding to, be sure to sign up for my newsletter!
About the Outfit
This outfit is one of my favorites in a long time! I started with a satin shirt, which every girl needs, even if you aren’t working in a corporate setting. (This one is from Chicwish an is super affordable.) I’ve paired it with a pair of classic straight leg jeans to dress it down, but not so much that you couldn’t wear it to work. The layers give it such a high fashion look in my opinion, and it was so easy to do. I just threw on a cable knit cardigan (grey would have been really pretty here too!) and a lightweight neutral overcoat. So easy! I added my favorite go-to heels and a couple of accessories to complete the outfit.
Shop My Look
Now I want to hear from you! What are you most excited for this year? What are your major 2020 goals? Drop them in the comments section or head over to Instagram and let’s chat and keep each other accountable!